DEAR ABBY: Couple surprised when son's fiancee speaks her thoughts

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DEAR ABBY: My son is engaged to a woman all of us love, however not too long ago, there’s been a difficulty. My husband was at their home whereas my son’s fiancee was ending up preparing for his or her date evening. (They dwell 10 minutes from us, and my husband has been there typically since his retirement.) When she was performed, she got here downstairs, instructed my husband they had been leaving and ordered my son to comply with her to the automobile. My son stated nothing on the time. This upset my husband vastly as a result of he values time with our son, who’s our solely little one.

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Afterward, my husband and I spoke together with her, saying we didn’t respect her angle. She countered by saying that they had a reservation and my husband rambles and is oblivious to the idea that different individuals don’t at all times have the time to have interaction with him. She then introduced up a number of cases through which my husband made my son late for one thing. After we requested our son, we had been shocked to seek out he agreed together with her! He stated he didn’t wish to convey it up himself as a result of it made him uncomfortable. My husband does like to speak, however I hardly see it as a difficulty.

Abby, I’m frightened. I discover her behaviour grossly thoughtless. I don’t need my son marrying some bossy girl who will order him round and refuses to see our aspect. She stated she’ll communicate with us about this additional provided that we conform to see a counsellor to debate “all our points.” I didn’t know we HAVE points. My son has by no means stated something earlier than, however once we requested, he stated he agreed together with her. What will we do? — FLABBERGASTED IN-LAWS

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DEAR IN-LAWS: Take a step again and cease making an attempt to defend your husband and your son, who ought to have spoken up earlier than his fiancee felt she needed to. In order for you a relationship along with your son and his future spouse, take her up on her suggestion to go to a household therapist collectively. Should you do, it might give every of you a chance to air your grievances and to work out an settlement that will fulfill all of you and forestall extra issues of this type sooner or later.

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DEAR ABBY: For years, I’ve travelled with my cousin to my two time-shares. She’s now in her mid-70s and has turn out to be grumpy and ugly. She complains typically about numerous well being points, and there could also be some dementia concerned. I’m extra stoic, so I discover this grating, particularly throughout a trip through which I wish to loosen up. I’d actually relatively she not come. How do I broach this in a compassionate method? She tends to get emotional. — READY FOR CHANGE IN TEXAS

DEAR READY: When the topic of a trip comes up along with your cousin, inform her you notice she isn’t feeling in addition to she used to and ask what her physician is doing about it. If she says she hasn’t talked about it with a physician, inform her you desire to her to do this BEFORE you journey collectively, as a result of it’s clear to you that she not enjoys these holidays, which makes you get pleasure from them much less.

— Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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