DEAR ABBY: Affection for shorter man grows after many years aside

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DEAR ABBY: I dated a colleague after I was 22 however broke it off as a result of I couldn’t cope with the truth that he was a number of inches shorter than me. I didn’t inform him why. I simply mentioned, “It’s me, not you.”

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I’m now in my 60s, have had a really profitable profession, by no means married and see on-line that he grew to become a distinguished researcher. In his on-line image, he appears like a candy older man now, and I’d give something to reconnect with him. Would this be silly?

Was I too insensitive at 22 to know that I probably harm him? Do you suppose he would forgive me if I obtained in contact with him now? He lives far-off, so an in-person assembly can be out of the query within the close to time period. Would an e-mail be OK? He’s in his early 70s and never married. — STUPID THEN IN OHIO

DEAR ‘STUPID’: At 22, you weren’t insensitive; you have been shallow. Take a look at this from that man’s perspective. What’s he presupposed to suppose when he receives an e-mail 40 years after a colleague dumped him by saying, “It’s me, not you”?

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Bear in mind, as profitable as he’s now, he isn’t any taller. My recommendation is to depart it alone, discover somebody you might be bodily interested in who lives geographically nearer, appreciates how profitable you’ve gotten been in your profession and is open to a relationship.

DEAR ABBY: I’m a childless 70-year-old man. Yearly across the anniversary of my brother’s demise, some relations get collectively and journey to his hometown to have a good time him. We now have a remembrance on the cemetery and go to Mass collectively on Sunday. We additionally exit for meals and drinks. There are three generations concerned now, the youngest of the youngsters being 10.

This yr, my cousin’s son and his spouse had a child. We’re all joyful for them. A few days in the past, I despatched a gaggle textual content on our household thread saying I didn’t suppose it was a good suggestion to take an toddler on this journey. I defined that I felt it could distract from the aim of the get-together. Properly, my cousin is offended and gained’t inform me why. I fastidiously worded my message so I didn’t say something unfavorable. Was I improper? — TRADITIONALIST IN PENNSYLVANIA

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DEAR TRADITIONALIST: You wrote that the aim of this get-together is for the household to honor your deceased brother and have a good time his life collectively. Once you posted your message on the household thread, did you count on your cousin’s son and his spouse to skip the occasion and keep dwelling with their child? Their child is a part of the household and could also be too younger to be with out their mom. Whereas your fastidiously worded message displays your emotions, it was out of line, and I can see why it upset your cousin.

A NOTE TO PARENTS OF YOUNG CHILDREN: In case your little ones will likely be out trick-or-treating tonight, please ensure they’re supervised to guarantee their security. Pleased Halloween, everybody! — LOVE, ABBY