DEAR ABBY: Two and a half years in the past, I bought a starter motorbike and allowed somebody I thought-about to be a superb good friend to experience it across the block.
She fell in love with it and expressed that she would like to have it. I made an settlement together with her that once I upgraded, I’d promote her that bike.
A 12 months later, I used to be in a position to buy the one I wished. I discovered what the trade-in worth for my authentic bike would have been and agreed to promote it to my good friend at that value. I instructed her then to pay me as she was in a position, and I signed the title over to her.
I didn’t draw up any invoice of sale or contract. I now notice this may increasingly have been naive on my half.
Shortly after taking possession, she had an accident and totaled the bike. Her insurance coverage didn’t pay, and he or she has employed a lawyer, saying it was the opposite particular person’s fault.
She has paid not one cent towards the bike, and even acknowledged that she owes me something for it.
I battle with confrontation, so I’ve but to say something, however a 12 months and a half later, I feel the time has come. I do know legally there isn’t a lot I can do, however I wish to say one thing to her.
How can I deal with this with out coming throughout as being tough? We now have grown aside however are nonetheless pleasant.
— BIKER CHICK IN TEXAS
DEAR BIKER CHICK: Do this: “It has been a 12 months and a half since I offered you the bike. When do you intend to start out paying me what we agreed upon?” It’s a respectable query.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my girlfriend, “Kim,” for a 12 months and a half. We’re each in our 40s and really impartial.
Her mom struggles with our relationship as a result of we’re two ladies. She has instructed Kim our relationship is a humiliation for her. She didn’t know her daughter is a lesbian till we started seeing one another.
Kim’s mom has stated that if I had been a person, she can be thrilled. She is aware of I like her daughter and deal with her properly, however she will’t recover from the truth that we’re homosexual.
I’m perplexed about what to do. Our relationship is secure, and we’re each glad, however this bothers each of us.
I don’t need Kim to really feel torn between her mom and me, particularly since we’re discussing marriage. Is there something I can do to ease the stress?
— LOOKING FOR PEACE IN KENTUCKY
DEAR LOOKING: There may be little to nothing you’ll be able to (or ought to) do to ease Kim’s mom’s embarrassment.
Dad and mom have all types of desires and ambitions the place their kids are involved, however within the remaining evaluation, grownup kids should stay their very own lives as they see match.
A longtime, trusted group referred to as PFLAG exists for the exact function of constructing bridges between LGBTQ people and their members of the family. You could find it at pflag.org.
Nevertheless, till Kim’s mom is keen to hunt assist to regulate to actuality, there’s nothing you or Kim can do aside from let your glad life collectively be an instance.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
